What does not kill…

What does not kill us, makes us stronger – or at least it refines us in some, significant way. I have come out the other side of a tough couple of years – and I know I am more tolerant, more patient, and better able to understand that often when people behave badly – there is a reason. Perhaps they are going through something even worse than what I have been through.
Many people are raised without the tools to cope with what life throws their way. Many people don’t have a strong family support system to back them up, or advise them, or at least help them hold on till the worst has passed. Many people use addictive substances to get through the tough times, unable to see that they have only made the situation worse and that now every day is a bad day.
I can’t actually prove that the ugly, rough stretches of life make a person stronger or better, but on the odd chance that it does, I gave myself that very hope a couple of months ago in the midst of my move, and here I am, feeling stronger and a little wiser than before. The encouragement helped me through a blue day. It wasn’t the only encouragement I received, and maybe not the best, but it was a part of what pulled me out of the mud puddle.
Day by day, knowing that time will help, knowing that I would end up stronger, and getting outside of myself for some perspective, those are the things that brought me through.
There will be more tough times, more stress – there always are – for all of us. That is life. Our response is what matters so while you’re giving yourself time to heal, have hope, and give hope to those around you. You’ll come through in the end and you’ll be stronger too.

About Barbara K Tyner

A graduate of UCCS with a degree in English Lit., Barbara writes Children's Literature as well as mainstream fiction. Her popular children's series, The Badger Books, is co-authored with Barbara's daughter, Laura. Her first novel, "Wait Here, Wait There" deals with grief and Alzheimer's. Her second novel, Rhyaden, a middle grade fantasy released Nov. 2018. Gardening, exploring National Parks, Kayaking, hiking, and snow-shoeing top her list of favorite hobbies.
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1 Response to What does not kill…

  1. Gudrun says:

    Those words are so true. I always felt this way, even when times are rough and it seems hopeless: what does not kill us, just makes us stronger! There is LIGHT at the end of the tunnel 🙂

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