One of the biggest blessings I enjoy these days is the do-over through my grandchildren. I have the opportunity to correct the mistakes I made with my children. I recognize the importance of time – spending time, making time, and taking time for them. I can do it now (I’m no longer trying to build a business) and that is why grandparent-hood is so darn special and so powerful. I have learned the value.
Because we are human, there will come a time with every other person we meet – including our children – when we are not at our best. Some stage of their development will be difficult for us and that is why it is so valuable for children to have two parents and extended family makes it even better. There is strength in numbers. Hopefully, in theory, both parents won’t have their failure time at the same stage of their children’s development. My husband was better with small children; I was better with them when they hit their teens.
Our children turned out wonderfully, and yet, I know where my weaknesses were with each of them. I know the time in each of their lives that I would like a do-over. As much as I would like that – it can’t happen. Nor can I help them avoid my mistakes. They have to work through parenthood just like I did, live and learn from their own mistakes – but I can give their children a safe place to be cherished with unconditional love and acceptance – just like my mom did for my kids.
The best part of all of this is absorbing all of that unconditional love coming right back at me through their little arms, tight around me in a giant hug. What a blessing. I truly am thankful this holiday season that I get to spend time with my grandchildren. I need no other gifts.