Focus on Balance and Purpose

Good morning Monday! The “Walk to End Alzheimer’s” was a wonderful event with beautiful, fall weather and fun people walking for a good cause. We raised $851.00, far exceeding our goal this year, so you know what that means. Next year we will shoot for a $1,000.00! Best of all was having my 3 year old granddaughter join in with her mom and I, already learning to give back and be a good citizen. Thanks to all who joined in the fight and donated to find the cure.

One of my favorite sayings is “Close minded people always have their mouths open.” Having in mind the fact that we often see faults in others that we have in ourselves, I have made a new promise for myself, to examine the amount of time my mouth is open, versus the amount of time I am listening to the other side. I will report back to you the progress I make. In fact, join in my blog and keep me accountable. Ask me how I am doing. It isn’t easy making a new habit like being conscious of how much time I talk vs. how much time I listen.

Fall is definitely here. The breeze this morning has brought the sound of crisp leaves and a bite to the air. The oak brush is turning red and orange alongside the yellow leaves of the wild bushes that I do not know the names of. It is beautiful, my favorite time of year, except for the fact that I know winter will follow too soon. October will bring the 1st Anniversary of Dean’s passing. I don’t know which will be worse, his birthday or the next day that he died. I see my kids struggling again, feelings building again, and there is still nothing to do but go through it and know it will get easier next year. My fall project list is long and that will help, keeping busy always does.

If you are going through a difficult time in your life, look for a couple of things in your life: balance and purpose. You won’t have both all of the time but if you focus on them, some of the lesser problems will fade. We all need purpose, even if it is as simple as being the best possible grandma in the world, and  there isn’t anything that doesn’t need balance from the time you spend on others versus the time you spend on yourself to the amount of money you spend and don’t know where it went. The simple act of looking squarely at an issue can be all that is needed to put it in perspective. Have a good week!

About Barbara K Tyner

A graduate of UCCS with a degree in English Lit., Barbara writes Children's Literature as well as mainstream fiction. Her popular children's series, The Badger Books, is co-authored with Barbara's daughter, Laura. Her first novel, "Wait Here, Wait There" deals with grief and Alzheimer's. Her second novel, Rhyaden, a middle grade fantasy released Nov. 2018. Gardening, exploring National Parks, Kayaking, hiking, and snow-shoeing top her list of favorite hobbies.
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