Wills and Stuff

I’m going to blog a day early because Internet is not readily available to me on these travels. I have traded grandchildren in for my mother’s yard work and 98 degrees. Ummm. Not sure which is the most difficult but I sure know which feels more rewarding! 

I have learned a great lesson in the grief of the last year. Please make things as simple as possible for your children when it comes to them dealing with your “stuff” after you pass. Go through the paperwork. Shred the unnecessary documents – you know the ones – the old accounts that are closed, the papers for current accounts that are more than three years old, the old receipts, anything and everything that is not vital, current and absolutely needed for tax purposes. Shred it, shred it, shred it! Don’t leave it for the kids to have to figure out whether it is important or not. That is difficult and it is difficult enough to deal with the emotions of your passing, much less your business. The other stuff is easier to deal with – they either like it or not, but the paperwork is the hard part.

Make a will. Save the family the hassle of probate. It is so easy now and not expensive. The generic forms are legal! Write a letter and put it in with the will to cover the little items that mean something to you. If the kids have your wishes in hand, they can avoid fighting simply because they know what YOU wanted and will honor that. Without your direction, their own differences can make it difficult to divide the little stuff not handled outright in your will. 

My own children have handled the past year like champions and I am very proud. I have heard horror stories though from others, so don’t take it for granted. Help them out. It will be the last gift you can give them and what a nice gift it is. Happy Father’s Day to all the great dads out there. Wish we were fishing today Daddy. 

About Barbara K Tyner

A graduate of UCCS with a degree in English Lit., Barbara writes Children's Literature as well as mainstream fiction. Her popular children's series, The Badger Books, is co-authored with Barbara's daughter, Laura. Her first novel, "Wait Here, Wait There" deals with grief and Alzheimer's. Her second novel, Rhyaden, a middle grade fantasy released Nov. 2018. Gardening, exploring National Parks, Kayaking, hiking, and snow-shoeing top her list of favorite hobbies.
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