A couple of weeks ago a fire broke out in Eastern Colorado, near our ranch. I did not know this. My dream that night was Dean trying to dial 911. He couldn’t get through and so I tried. It was frustrating because when I did get through, they were busy, yadda yadda. You know how dreams go but this was extremely vivid. The next morning, I called Dean’s best friend and found out about the fire, 24 square miles of fire that came within 7 miles of our ranch. Now, I thought it weird and kind of neat. Then last night, my daughter in Florida told me her son, our 2 year old grandson, was eating dinner and suddenly turned around toward the living room. He said “Paw Paw,” his name for Grandpa, over and over. Then he turned around and scrunched his neck and giggled as if he was being tickled. Of course, my daughter started bawling. She wanted to see her dad too.
So – you tell me. I know he is present in our hearts, but I think his spirit is a little more present than simply a memory.
And here is some food for thought. Statistics show that 100% of us are going to die, so you might want to give some thought about how you are going to handle it when someone you love goes before you. It will happen and I am absolutely positive there are some healthy ways to come out the other side of grief, the most important of which is reaching out to others, dialog, support groups, etc. through the process.