I am wondering about rose-colored glasses. Is it healthy when you only remember the good about someone or are you being polite or are you not actually healing? I think we need perspective for healthy living, even if it brings fresh tears, and I think that means it is okay to remember people as they truly were, good and bad.
There is another thing people have found to feel guilty about. Feeling good again. Oops, did I just laugh at that joke? Yes, that kind of feeling is another part of survivor’s guilt. When you start to enjoy life again after the loss of a loved one, it is healthy and a natural part of the grief process and certainly what your loved one would want for you. Choose to feel good again, move forward out of the anger or sadness, and don’t feel guilty that you can laugh again. Share that laughter with others and help them move forward too.