The cost of ‘I’m sorry’

Sometimes I say things poorly. The best of intentions go awry. Our perspectives are so different that we see – or hear – the same things differently. This recently happened to me and hind-sight may make it clear – but it doesn’t make it easy to undo. When it happens with your family, it doesn’t matter who is right, or more right, or right from their side of the fence. The only thing that matters is that you get back to where you were, a loving family, supporting each other through the grief process or through illness or simply through life. Why is communication so difficult? I wish I knew. Maybe we could fix some of the world’s problems if we knew. What I do know is that pride gets us no-where (the Bible can give you an exact location) so if it is keeping you from saying you’re sorry, let me assure you, the cost you are paying for that pride is too high. Talk about a bargain! There is no cost to saying “I’m sorry.” Zero! Zilch! AND it doesn’t even hurt. In fact, you’ll feel so much better once you do say it, once you start that conversation that allows the hurts to heal, that you will wonder what you were afraid of. Best of all, apologies get easier with practice, like every other worthwhile endeavor.

About Barbara K Tyner

A graduate of UCCS with a degree in English Lit., Barbara writes Children's Literature as well as mainstream fiction. Her popular children's series, The Badger Books, is co-authored with Barbara's daughter, Laura. Her first novel, "Wait Here, Wait There" deals with grief and Alzheimer's. Her second novel, Rhyaden, a middle grade fantasy released Nov. 2018. Gardening, exploring National Parks, Kayaking, hiking, and snow-shoeing top her list of favorite hobbies.
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